Growing a baby, and post natal body gratitude.
Despite all the adjusting to my new body I was amazed at everything my body had gone through the past few years.
Us ladies really are remarkable.The amount of physical and mental changes we have to endure throughout pregnancy, childbirth and the post-natal stage – it really is astonishing, and sometimes not given enough praise. I do want to mention that Dad’s are obviously amazing too. For being supportive, loving and a shoulder to cry on when you can’t tie your shoe laces in those last few weeks of pregnancy or in my case the overdue weeks!
I loved pregnancy with my three, I was extremely lucky enough not to get sickness – I don’t think I would be writing this now if I did, I couldn’t think of anything worse, I’m a complete wimp when throwing up! I had moments of nausea, lots of moments of extreme fatigue especially with my second and third pregnancies, the hormones do liked to kick me in my teeth every now again or rather made me feel like I wanted to kick my partner in the balls for not being able to do the named shoed laces up, not being able to get out of bed without doing ‘the roll’ – you know that roll don’t you? But aside from all of this, I loved being pregnant, the feeling of my babies kicking for the first time, the hiccups (not funny when its ten times a night!), the interaction when Daddy was talking to the bump, Oh I must add though with my third that I did not enjoy the SPD in the last few weeks which left me not being able to walk for two days – ouch. So over all I had positive experiences, and the births were amazing too. (more on those another time but you can read Phoenix’s here!)
So with each of my babies I did feel a little out of sorts after giving birth. More so after my second and even more so my third birth. After my first, I felt very proud that I only got one little stretch mark on my tummy, and my tummy immediately went flat after having her. Feeling chuffed with this, I still felt a little sad that I got stretch marks on my boobs! it was a shock for me but I wish now that I didn’t feel so down about it. Then after having our second, I felt the difference more so. More stretch marks, skin that wasn’t so toned on my tummy anymore, the darker circles under my eyes, and just the fact that it didn’t all ‘ping’ back as fast as my first. With our third baby born 17 months ago, I did have my moments of being annoyed with the changes, even now I do especially as after having three pregnancies in four years, i developed a umbilical hernia with my tummy split also known as Diastasis Recti. Its something I have to live with, and will hopefully heal over time – but ultimately I am proud of what I have achieved, and what my body has enabled me to be able to do naturally as I know a few people who haven’t been so lucky, so its an eternal blessing for me.
That being said, with all the embracing and thankfulness, I am also in the mind set of correcting the health issue from pregnancy that I mentioned above. As this does effect the every day life, it causes pain and a lot of discomfort, it doesn’t take away anything about how much i’m thankful for all my body has done but I also want to feel comfortable in it too. I wont be getting surgery to removed any blemishes thats for sure! but I want to feel more acceptable in the way I feel in regards to my health. Feeling good about yourself is an important message here, so to feel at your optimum health – this will reap wonders for your soul too, or at least I have felt the benefits this way when i’ve been doing my post natal exercises to fix the DR.
Every blemish is proof that YOU grew YOUR babies in there, kept them nourished, safe, loved – not to mention cosy.You did that.